Embracing Healing and Self-Discovery – A Conversation with Jessica Graham

Rita Mercer Author

Lean in as Jessica shares her journey of overcoming shame and doubt to embracing self love, hope, and happiness.

Today, I’m thrilled to share with you a new segment we’re rolling out called, My Daring Well Story, where incredible women share their journeys of overcoming life’s obstacles and embracing their true selves.

In this episode, I had the honor of sitting down with Jessica Graham, a wife, stepmother, and the brilliant business owner of Jessica Graham Brand Studio. Not only does she help entrepreneurs craft their personal brand stories, but she’s also navigated her own path of healing and self-love, transforming her life and business in the process.

Facing Struggles and Shame

Her story begins with growing up in a family surrounded by addiction. Jessica shares, this environment left her feeling needy, desperate for validation, and stuck in a painful cycle of rejection and abandonment. By the time she reached her late twenties, Jessica knew something had to change. She sought support through therapy and learned critical tools, like setting boundaries and recognizing codependency.

But as Jessica shares, the real journey began after her marriage ended. Despite acquiring these tools, she found herself once again battling feelings of inadequacy, asking, “How did I end up here again?” This was when she began to confront deeply ingrained beliefs, particularly the notion of not being enough—a thought that can paralyze us with shame and self-doubt.

Recognizing and Breaking Patterns

For Jessica, identifying these patterns was key to her healing. She realized that her core belief of not being enough had a ripple effect across many aspects of her life. This belief impacted not only her romantic relationships but also friendships and her sense of self-worth. As she reflected, she began to notice how this shame and fear was keeping her stuck in a cycle of toxic relationships.

By acknowledging these patterns, Jessica started to reframe her story and began moving towards developing healthier behaviors. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing when we feel triggered so we can work to understand what’s causing these reactions and start rewriting our internal narratives to shift her mindset. 

The Power of Self-Love and Reframing

Jessica’s journey of healing was profoundly spiritual. She found solace in removing herself from external influences and going inward through —journaling, praying, and meditating. As she reconnected with herself, she found joy and laughter returning to her life. A pivotal moment came when she stopped relying on external validation and started reframing her thoughts, learning to appreciate her own strengths.

A significant takeaway from her healing journey was transforming her approach to gratitude. Rather than simply listing things she was thankful for, she began noting what she was proud of. This shift allowed her to own her actions and recognize the power she had in shaping her own narrative. She shared, it became a co-creation of life, acknowledging both her efforts and the guidance of her higher power.

Lessons from Jessica’s Story

Jessica's story offers profound insights on overcoming shame and self-doubt. Here are some key takeaways:

• Recognize and understand your triggers: By identifying the patterns that keep you stuck, you can begin to shift your mindset.
• Reframe negative beliefs: Challenge the story you tell yourself, especially the “I’m not enough” narrative, and replace it with affirmations of self-worth.
• Take ownership of your journey: Instead of relying on external validation, find strength in your actions. Celebrate your achievements by recognizing your role in creating them.
• Embrace spirituality and self-care: Whether it’s through journaling, prayer, or meditation, take time to reconnect with yourself and your higher power to cultivate inner peace.

Connect with Jessica

If Jessica’s story resonated with you and you’re interested in personal brand storytelling, you can connect with her on Instagram @jessicagraham.brandstudio or on LinkedIn under Jessica Graham-Tolsdorf. You can also visit her website, jessicagrahambrandstudio.com, where she offers free resources to help solopreneurs and small business owners tell their brand story.

Final Thoughts

I hope Jessica’s story has inspired you to take steps toward healing, self-discovery, and embracing your own journey. Remember, no one is exempt from life’s struggles, but with hope, grace, and truth, we can overcome them.

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