Pregnancy Loss and the Path to Motherhood with Krista Casey

Rita Mercer Author

A powerful story of pregnancy loss, healing, and motherhood with Krista Casey—discover hope, mindset shifts, and emotional resilience.

Grief has a way of transforming us—and so does healing. In this heartfelt and empowering conversation on The Daring Well Podcast, I had the pleasure of sitting down with coach, speaker, and creative Krista Casey to discuss her deeply personal journey through pregnancy loss and the inner work that followed. From navigating two miscarriages in a foreign country during a global pandemic to ultimately embracing motherhood with resilience and purpose, Krista shares what it means to move through trauma with intention, grace, and growth.

Whether you’re walking through your own pregnancy loss, supporting someone who is, or simply looking to deepen your understanding of emotional resilience and mindset transformation, Krista’s story is a poignant reminder that we are never as alone as we think.

Redefining the Path to Parenthood

For Krista, the journey toward motherhood didn’t begin with a due date—it began with a question: Is parenthood right for me?

“There’s this expectation that if you’re a woman of a certain age, you should have children. But I wanted to make that decision for myself,” Krista shared.

This reflection, rooted in curiosity and honesty, mirrored Krista’s personal values—connection and curiosity—which ultimately became guides through the complex seasons of loss, healing, and self-discovery.

The Silent Struggles of Pregnancy Loss

After deciding to pursue parenthood, Krista experienced two back-to-back miscarriages, each layered with emotional weight. “There’s already shame and guilt around miscarriage,” she shared, “and then you add in the question of whether parenting is right for you... it was a really heavy time.”

Living abroad in Berlin as an expat during the COVID-19 pandemic added to her isolation. Krista didn’t initially tell her family or closest friends about her losses. “I just wasn’t in a place to take on their grief or reactions. Looking back, I don’t know if it was the right decision, but at the time, it felt like the only way to protect my energy.”

Discovering the Source and Seeking Support

After her second miscarriage, Krista learned that her thyroid was out of balance—a diagnosis that offered both clarity and a potential solution. Once treated, she was able to carry a healthy pregnancy.

Still, emotional healing wasn’t immediate.

“Even after I gave birth to my son, I had this feeling of, ‘There’s still more work to do,’” she said. “He’s going to look to me for how to live, how to regulate, how to feel—and I realized I had to do that work on myself first.”

Nervous System Regulation and Emotional Awareness

One of the most powerful tools Krista discovered during her healing journey was the concept of nervous system regulation. She learned that a parent’s ability to regulate themselves can directly influence their baby’s regulation—an idea introduced to her by a doula during pregnancy.

“When my son was born, I didn’t feel grounded. I was overstimulated, sleep-deprived, and overwhelmed,” she recalled. “Sometimes I would lie on the floor just to reconnect with the ground and try to reset.”

Krista began using tools like breathwork, meditation, coaching, and time in nature to help her feel more balanced. “The skill now is recognizing dysregulation before it takes over—and having practices in place that help me come back to myself.”

The Mindset Shift That Changed Everything

A pivotal turning point for Krista was a quote by author Glennon Doyle:

“A responsible mother is not one who dies for her child, but one who shows them how to fully live.”

“That quote changed everything for me,” Krista explained. “I realized I didn’t have to lose myself to be a good mom. In fact, by pursuing my passions and showing up authentically, I could model how to live fully.”

She also let go of the belief that she was responsible for her child’s happiness. “That was a huge source of anxiety. But now I understand that I’m here to model how to feel—all emotions—not just happiness.”

Life Design and Living with Intention

Krista’s healing also intersected with her training in life design, a coaching method that helps individuals align their lives with their core values and inner truth.

“Life design gave me tools to learn about myself—what I value, what brings me joy, what drains me,” she said. “It helped me make decisions that were aligned with who I truly am.”

One tool she uses with clients is the “work view,” which encourages people to define not just what they do, but whythey do it. “When you know what motivates you beyond financial stability—like collaboration, creativity, or impact—you’re better able to find fulfillment and purpose.” 

What Life Design Includes:

• Defining your values
• Clarifying your "work view" (why you work and what brings you fulfillment)
• Making decisions based on inner alignment

Words for Women Walking Through Loss

When asked what she would say to someone going through pregnancy loss or infertility, Krista responded with empathy:

“You are not alone. Truly. Once I started telling people, I was amazed at how many had gone through something similar. When you’re ready to talk, you’ll be met with compassion—and likely, shared experience.”

She encourages women to move through their healing journey at their own pace and to seek support that feels safe—whether through a therapist, coach, support group, or trusted friend. “Processing happens when we feel seen and heard. That’s what helps us heal.”

The Power of Community

One of Krista’s biggest takeaways was the importance of community. After isolating herself during her losses, she now encourages others to build support systems early.

“If I were to go through it again, I wouldn’t wait until 12 weeks to tell people I’m pregnant. I would share sooner with those I trust so I wouldn’t have to carry it alone.”

Closing Reflections

Krista’s story is one of resilience, transformation, and reclaiming identity. Her journey reminds us that healing is not linear—but it is possible. Through grief, therapy, coaching, mindset work, and intentional living, she has embraced a new chapter of motherhood that is grounded, authentic, and full of life.

• Take your time. There is no deadline for grief.
• Seek support. Whether through a coach, therapist, or support group, don't go it alone.
• Honor your needs. Share your experience when it feels right for you.
• Build your community intentionally. Isolation was Krista’s hardest struggle, but it doesn’t have to be yours.

Connect with Krista Casey:

• Website: kristacaseycoaching.com
• LinkedIn: Krista Casey

🙏 You’re Not Alone

If you’re walking through pregnancy loss or new motherhood and feeling overwhelmed—know that your emotions are valid, and your healing matters. You deserve support, rest, and grace for every step of your journey.

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