How to Complete the Stress Cycle & Regulate your Nervous System

Rita Mercer Author

Learn how to complete the stress cycle, calm your nervous system, and restore balance through rest, breathwork, and mindful practices.

Stress is not just an occasional inconvenience—it’s an inevitable part of being human. Whether it shows up in our work, home life, or relationships, stress touches us all. But many of us remain stuck in a heightened state of stress long after the triggering event has passed, leaving our minds racing, our bodies tense, and our spirits depleted.

The truth is, we were not designed to live in constant survival mode. Our nervous system has a built-in mechanism for returning us to balance, but if we don’t know how to complete the stress cycle, we remain trapped in exhaustion, irritability, and burnout.

In this article, we’ll explore what the stress response really is, how chronic stress impacts the mind, body, and spirit, and most importantly, how to activate your parasympathetic nervous system so you can feel safe, balanced, and whole again.

Understanding the Stress Response: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn

Our nervous system is wired for survival. When we perceive a threat—whether it’s a real danger or an imagined fear—our sympathetic nervous system activates the fight-or-flight response.

• Fight may look like outward anger, arguments, or inner frustration boiling over.
• Flight often shows up as avoidance—escaping from situations, overworking, or distracting ourselves.
• Freeze is when the body or mind shuts down. You may feel numb, stuck, or dissociated.
• Fawn is a lesser-known response where we people-please, shrink ourselves, or give in to avoid conflict.

Your heart rate increases, your breath quickens, your muscles tighten, and stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol flood your body. These responses are designed to keep you safe in emergencies. But the problem arises when your body never receives the signal that the threat has passed.

Key Point:

Your body doesn’t know the difference between an actual emergency and a perceived one. A stressful email, a looming deadline, or an unresolved argument can trigger the same physiological response as real danger.

Why We Get Stuck in the Stress Cycle

The stress response is meant to be temporary—a short burst of survival energy followed by a return to calm. However, many of us never complete that cycle.

Instead, we get caught in:

• Overthinking and catastrophic “what if” scenarios.
• Emotional numbing through distractions like food, substances, or endless scrolling.
• Burnout from constantly pushing ourselves without rest.

This leaves us trapped in sympathetic activation, cycling through fear, anxiety, irritability, and fatigue without relief.

Key Point:

We stay stuck because we rarely allow ourselves to fully process the stress. Instead of completing the cycle, we suppress it, ignore it, or try to numb it away.

The Cost of Chronic Stress

Remaining in a prolonged stress response has profound consequences on every dimension of health.

Effects on the Mind

• Racing thoughts and difficulty concentrating.
• Increased anxiety, fear, and worry.
• Depression and feelings of hopelessness.
• Irritability and emotional overwhelm.
• Negative self-talk and catastrophizing.

Effects on the Body

• Muscle tightness, especially in the jaw, neck, and shoulders.
• Frequent headaches.
• Digestive issues connected to the gut-brain axis.
• High blood pressure and cardiovascular strain.
• Fatigue and poor sleep quality.

Effects on the Spirit

• Disconnection from joy, love, or meaning.
• Feeling unsafe emotionally or relationally.
• Numbness or difficulty staying present.
• Dwelling in the past (depression) or future (anxiety) instead of the now.

Key Point:

Chronic stress keeps your nervous system stuck in survival mode, preventing true healing, connection, and growth.

How to Activate the Parasympathetic Nervous System

The way forward lies in intentionally engaging your parasympathetic nervous system—often called the “rest and digest” mode. This system signals safety, slows the heart rate, lowers blood pressure, and restores balance to the body.

When you activate this system, you feel:

• Calm and emotionally grounded.
• Physically relaxed and free of tension.
• Safe to connect with yourself and others.
• Able to be present in the moment.

Key Point:

You already have the power within you to reset your nervous system. The key is practicing daily tools that signal to your body: I am safe now.

Practical Steps to Complete the Stress Cycle

The following practices can help you discharge stress, restore balance, and regulate your nervous system.

1. Gentle Movement

• Take a mindful walk in nature.
• Stretch your body slowly and intentionally.
• Dance in your living room or shake out tension.

Gentle, mindful movement tells your body that the threat has passed. It discharges stored stress and reminds your nervous system that you are safe in the present moment.

2. Breathwork

• Practice slow, deep abdominal breathing.
• Pause between inhales and exhales.
• Pair each breath with affirmations like “I am safe. I am calm. I am in control.”

Breathwork directly activates the vagus nerve, signaling the parasympathetic system to restore balance. Even two minutes of deep breathing can shift your state.

3. Journaling

• Write down your emotions and thoughts.
• Use prompts such as:
  • What story am I telling myself?
  • What is my body trying to communicate?
  • What makes me feel safe and grounded?

Journaling externalizes stress, helping you release trapped energy and gain clarity about your inner world.

4. Support from Coaches or Counselors

Healing is not a solo journey. A coach or therapist can help you:

• Recognize your stress response patterns.
• Learn personalized regulation strategies.
• Process past traumas and beliefs keeping you stuck.

Reaching out for help is not a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of courage.

5. Rest and Sacred Stillness

Rest is more than sleep—it’s intentional restoration. True rest looks like:

• Time in nature, engaging your senses.
• Saying “no” without guilt.
• Creative activities that refill your soul.
• Spiritual practices that connect you to purpose.

Rest is the ultimate reset button for the nervous system, helping you return to equilibrium.

The Power of Awareness

None of these tools can work without awareness. You cannot change what you are unaware of. Taking moments to pause, notice your body, and acknowledge your stress response is the first step toward regulation.

Ask yourself throughout the day:

• Am I in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn?
• What is my body asking for right now?
• Do I feel safe and grounded in this moment?

By listening to your body’s wisdom, you can catch stress before it spirals and practice releasing it rather than storing it.

An Invitation to Sacred Rest

If you’ve been living in survival mode for far too long, it’s time to give yourself permission to rest, reset, and release.

That’s why I’m inviting you to join me for the Sacred Rest Online Retreat—a guided experience designed to help you regulate your nervous system, reconnect with your body, and find peace.

Through gentle movement, breathwork, reflection prompts, and community support, you’ll learn how to complete the stress cycle and return to balance.

You deserve to live with freedom, joy, and calm—not chronic stress and overwhelm.

Learn more at daringwell.com/retreat.

Final Thoughts

You are not weak for feeling overwhelmed. You are not failing because your nervous system is dysregulated. You are simply human—and your body is doing exactly what it was designed to do: keep you safe.

The good news is you can guide your body back into balance. By practicing gentle movement, breathwork, journaling, rest, and seeking support, you can complete the stress cycle and return to a place of wholeness.

Your healing begins the moment you choose to slow down, listen, and honor your body’s wisdom. The cycle doesn’t have to stay incomplete. You have the power to finish it—and step into peace.Quick Takeaways

• Stress is unavoidable, but chronic stress keeps the body trapped in survival mode.
• The fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses are natural, but they should be temporary.
• Symptoms of stress show up in the mind (anxiety, racing thoughts), body (muscle tension, fatigue), and spirit (disconnection, numbness).
• The parasympathetic nervous system restores calm and balance when activated.
• Tools like gentle movement, breathwork, journaling, support, and rest help complete the stress cycle.
• Healing starts with awareness and giving yourself permission to release what no longer serves you.

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